Meditation has brought so much to my life, and the longer meditation and I have been together the richer our relationship has become.
But believe me, it wasn’t love at first sight.
Over the years, meditation and I have gone through some highs and lows. We’ve had several break ups. I placed a lot of demands and had big expectations. I wanted meditation to fix me, to complete me and bring me blissful moments.
When things didn’t change, at the pace I wanted them to, I had a lot of judgments; it was never about me, there was always something wrong with my meditation.
I had so many misconceptions about what my meditation should or shouldn’t be.
I would say things like…
‘I’m too stressed to meditate!’ So, I would wait for the ‘perfect’ time.
‘I have too many thoughts. It’s not working’.
‘That was a bad meditation’ if I had lots of thoughts.
‘That was a good meditation’ if it was peaceful and quiet.
I was waiting for the perfect time to meditate, and I expected my meditation to be a certain way.
I had this idea, and find many people do, that I had to get rid of every single thought to meditate. And with a mind that was going nonstop it felt like an unachievable feat.
I learned over time that none of these beliefs were true.
When I finally let go of the attachment of how my meditation should be, things started to change. My relationship with meditation deepened.
When I accepted my meditation, I began to accept myself. The two went hand in hand.
I noticed how I started to be more in the flow in my day-to-day life.
I was more grounded, less reactive, I became more aware of myself, my thoughts and life. It was less about trying to change something and more abo
Thoughts are natural. They will come and go. It doesn’t matter how many we have or the content of the thought.
There might be meditations that are more peaceful, deep, or enjoyable, but to say it is good or bad is missing the point of meditation itself.
The truth is there is no good or bad meditation.
Like anything meaningful in our life there are ups and downs. Good moments and challenging ones, and when we stay the course, the relationship deepens. We see and feel the change.
It requires patience and perseverance.
Perhaps you are in the honeymoon stage or perhaps you’ve had it with meditation, it’s not giving you what you want. Perhaps you haven’t meditated before but are curious, or perhaps you and your meditation are in a committed relationship.
Wherever we are on our journey with meditation I meet you there.
With loving kindness,
Diane